tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5910567723606310061.post5654540619631014217..comments2023-09-06T07:49:16.424-04:00Comments on Wedded Mommy Bliss!!: Trying times with boys....VENTING the embarrassment!Mommy on the go!http://www.blogger.com/profile/01546330001795150334noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5910567723606310061.post-64453019256376113782011-05-10T19:46:49.734-04:002011-05-10T19:46:49.734-04:00Thanks Lauren!Thanks Lauren!Mommy on the go!https://www.blogger.com/profile/01546330001795150334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5910567723606310061.post-33053946307444397692011-05-10T13:49:42.220-04:002011-05-10T13:49:42.220-04:00I know you asked for mom's of boys to respond,...I know you asked for mom's of boys to respond, but I just couldn't resist. I am a mother to a beautiful, very intelligent, and extremely active 2 year old girl. The events you described happen anytime we get around a large group of people. For some reason, she feels the need to entertain and she get so WILD (to say the least). Her (boy) cousin is 7 weeks younger and it's like the roles are reversed. He's the cry baby and she's the bully. At our Mother's Day dinner with the entire fam. including great-grandparents, Lucy went to time out 3 times before (praise the Lord) it was time for everyone to go! Her cousin's 2nd bday party is this weekend and I'm beyond stressed about how she's going to be. Like I've said, she's very smart and understands a lot of what we say so I am spending this week reminding her to "leave Jackson ALONE". We are making it a point to get Lucy to bed on time on Friday night so she'll be well-rested and ready to party. Also, getting her dad involved helps tremendously. I'm with her more and do most of the disipling and she is such a strong-willed child that she things of testing me as a game sometimes. We are very consistent with her, but sometimes Daddy's voice is much firmer than mine and it does the trick instantly. You're not alone!!!Laurenhttp://www.pruittsgoosetales.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5910567723606310061.post-57180068442989233462011-05-09T20:07:19.616-04:002011-05-09T20:07:19.616-04:00Lauren, Play dates are essentially guinea pig acti...Lauren, Play dates are essentially guinea pig activity for everyone involved. LOL I think that's kind of the point! haha I can't provide several kids but can offer Addy. hahaha They really didn't seem to do that bad when it was just the two of them though, honestly so I don't know how much help that is. he may need the more "exciting" events...?? Not sure, but either way we are here to help "train" both of them with how to interact. <br /><br />It's a proven fact that kids will not comprehend the concept of sharing till around 5, so honestly none of us should expect that for a while we just basically have to show them not to take things or hit or kick or bite or anything like that while doing so. LOL <br /><br />I think teaching him what not to touch and being consistent with telling the older kids to tell him no and take it back and/or you doing so like you said is a good place to start! :) <br /><br />Remember, he is 2.5. He is testing boundaries. You are pregnant--your patience is short and you are emotional. You just have to do what you can right now! Choose your battles but try to be consistent and realize this is a trying time for all! :)CeltiCutiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05182245394809803979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5910567723606310061.post-27633029128297305732011-05-09T08:04:21.056-04:002011-05-09T08:04:21.056-04:00Thanks ladies. Lots of good advice here. It's ...Thanks ladies. Lots of good advice here. It's been really hard not to feel frustrated with all of this. There's this part of me that wants to let him go and just let him do his thing, be a kid, and work out problems on his own instead of constantly being right there to correct him. I feel like it is important for him to know how to solve some things on his own, but I just do not feel like he is ready to do that yet. <br /><br />Honestly, it's been amazing to me that it is taking so long for him to understand and learn how he needs to be. He is a quick learner in general and constantly shows it, but going out is a different story.<br /><br />Then, there are also other things that come out when we are out that don't come up at home. Like, at the party we went to after this, he could reach the lock for the door and open it and walk out. He did the same thing at my parents house on Mother's Day. This isn't something we deal with at home, so it means we HAVE to have a timeout spot (which wasn't hard since we use the first step at home) but it just seems like he doesn't take it as seriously, because he is so excited for whatever is going to come next. <br /><br />Also, do you think that I need to be out and about for more playdates? I keep thinking, maybe part of the problem is that these opportunities for playing with younger kids are too far between, but then I feel like I'm asking parents to let their kid be a guinea pig with mine to help him act more appropriately! <br /><br />As for the older kids, I think he's less on the end of the bigger one wins, and more in the thinking of.....I can have whatever I want, because they kind of just stand back like he's a baby and let him play with whatever he wants. There really is never a fight over anything...and if there is, HE actually probably ends up getting it in the end. Not because I say anything like "Oh, come on....", but just because they don't really care about him taking it all that much. <br /><br />Although, overall, that is an interesting thought, because maybe the learned behavior is just "I get what I want". I know that almost on a daily basis he's taking Scott's DS. Sometimes Scott lets him, not because he wants him to, but because he doesn't want to fight with him. Maybe we're just not doing a good job with teaching him that some things are not his to touch. Interesting......<br /><br />How do you Mom with boys that are younger deal with them taking things from the older kids? <br /><br />Thanks again everyone....It was really hard to write this post and feel so vulnerable to the world, but sometimes it takes an outsider looking in to help you find the error of your ways.Mommy on the go!https://www.blogger.com/profile/01546330001795150334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5910567723606310061.post-87796600479892921122011-05-08T22:02:04.983-04:002011-05-08T22:02:04.983-04:00I somehow came across this, through Sally, and jus...I somehow came across this, through Sally, and just wanted to say... that my child was wild and rambucous while all the other children sat and played quietly. We barely stayed anywhere longer than an hour and we would be gone. It's just too much to take them somewhere without your own timeout spot especially. By the way, we made a lot of trips out to the car anywhere we went.chalkohttp://www.facebook.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5910567723606310061.post-67689782119381816122011-05-08T15:21:00.772-04:002011-05-08T15:21:00.772-04:00Boys are different. Very different. They do need m...Boys are different. Very different. They do need more active time than girls and they do tend to be more physically aggressive. Don't worry too much.<br />At 2 1/2, he is too young to be expected to understand the feelings of others, but not too young for you to explain those feelings. It's also too soon for him to show a lot of self control. :)<br />My son was 22 mos old when my 3rd was born, and those months from 18-36 months were the hardest! I remember crying a lot, too. My husband was my hero back then, coming to my rescue all the time.<br />Best advice I can give is... Don't be afraid to leave a party. Set clear expectations for your son's behavior. Remind him that if he is not behaving then he will have to go home/out to the car/whatever and then follow through (best done without getting emotional which is hard, I know). He's a smart little fellow. He'll try you, but stand strong. Eventually, he will learn that he must do xyz or he will not get to enjoy the party. It's hard work being a momma, but when this stage has passed it will be well worth it. :)<br />We have friends who let their little boy be "all boy" when he comes to visit and it makes me CRAZY. But he is 5, not 2 1/2. BIG difference. :) <br />And hey... This too shall pass, you know?! These trying stages of development come and go, but they don't last forever. Just keep on loving him and encouraging him when he does well. Also keep on expecting good behavior being consistent. It may mean being the "mean momma" sometimes. Better at two than at twelve, I think. ;)Fatimahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10441655211819602032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5910567723606310061.post-84850140989831208822011-05-08T14:44:54.502-04:002011-05-08T14:44:54.502-04:00Lauren, I am sorry you had such a bad time. :(
I...Lauren, I am sorry you had such a bad time. :( <br /><br />I mean this in the nicest way of asking but do you discipline him when he hits or pushes the older kids? I think that might be where to start. I know they are bigger and can "handle themselves" but he is basically just learning the bigger person wins and when surrounded by younger kids and/or girls he is that bigger person so here is where its going awry, ya know? He just needs consistency in how he should act I think...CeltiCutiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05182245394809803979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5910567723606310061.post-71769610710514050752011-05-08T13:14:06.288-04:002011-05-08T13:14:06.288-04:00Aw. Lauren.. I'm sorry this happened. Its real...Aw. Lauren.. I'm sorry this happened. Its really hard trying to be patient with your child when you're pregnant. I cannot tell you how many times I had to walk away and cry about it. <br /><br />I have no real advice though. I'm very blessed to have a daughter that is very good with other kids, especially younger ones. <br /><br />I honestly wouldn't know what to do with a boy. :PAmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02336622098125478985noreply@blogger.com